When Trolls Wear Princess Dresses

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We’re all allowed to be as mean as we want to trolls when they rear their ugly heads. It’s probably not a good idea though, and reporting and blocking the swine can be just as satisfying as having a nice little square of bubble-wrap to play with, if ignoring them is too much to ask. This is all very well, and nicely cut and dried. There is another breed around the internet too though, who somehow manage to be trolls “under the radar”. They like to show people up in “nice” ways, while at the same time appearing to be nice themselves – if you get my drift. I don’t buy this crap though. Unless someone openly attacks you or yours first, why would you be mean simply because you disagree with them? I’m not talking about the hilariously offensively filthy lurkers in the comments sections of some newsletters around and about, but often bloggers with their own avid followers who think that they’re just the coolest thing since ice-cream. They’re subtle, and while coming across as helpful and benign, they often inject little bits of venom where they can – sometimes disguised as “humour”. Well, as far as I’m concerned mean is mean, no matter how much honey you coat it with. I prefer the straight in your face evil trolls to these guys, who probably don’t even realise just how horrible their actions are, because they’re too busy basking in the joy of being “right”. Often it’s pretty obvious that the reasons for these behaviours are rooted in envy, which doesn’t often help heal the feelings of gentle souls so insidiously attacked, but it’s still pure old green eyes at work.

Man Sucking Lemon

Image: Ryan McGuire

I’ve only been properly knocked for a loop once, where the attacker successfully masked the attack by posing as a little injured puppy, shortly after I joined Facebook years ago. Good luck trying that sort of thing with me now though. I reckon that’s probably the reason why I don’t often go there, and when I do, I still tread very lightly. I’m a very happy bunny on all my other sites though, and so far I’ve generally managed to ignore the couple of tiny trolls that have attempted to get up my nostril. I’m unlikely to swat them with any particular force unless I really lose my temper, which is quite hard to get me to do. I find it much more satisfying to incinerate them legitimately. Occasionally I’ll see them getting up to their nastiness elsewhere, and I’ll shake my head and move on, unless of course they happen to injure a friend of mine. This can result in the awakening of that scary one thing of mine that is a hundred percent Irish – the temper. Luckily my friends are genuinely nice people, and able to rise above such pettiness. It helps to understand what causes this behaviour when you feel an uncalled for shot across your bow. It’s just one of those poor souls who truly believe that insulting someone else is the road to their own coolness, and get to put on their cool happy faces when their followers like them up when they try and make someone better than them look small. Their cool happy face.  Like so.

Pulling Face
Image: Ryan McGuire

There isn’t much you can do about these things apart from moving right along. Definitely try and do that if you can. Never break your stride for too long because of them, and brush the painful nip of their caustic “wit” away just as quickly as you can. People who get up to these things aren’t worth any of your time. There’s something you have, or are, that will always instil in some strangers along the path of your life the desire to try and bring you down. Don’t ever let them. Ignore the mean-spirited sods and treasure the wonderful friends that you do have. If what you share with the world is genuine, and coming from a good place inside your heart or mind, you’re on the right track. Make sure that those who you take advice from genuinely have your best interests at heart, even if they make a tiny oops along the way – we all do. Beware of those who only want to “help” you to make themselves look good, because often the tools that they give you to use are wrong, and could get you hurt.

Man using banana as a gun
Image: Ryan McGuire

There will always be some little ball of envious rage lurking somewhere, outwardly wearing robes of light and a halo, just waiting to pounce on someone who they feel needs “bringing down a peg or two”. The bigger you get in your chosen space, the bigger the apparent benefit to showing you up will be to these people. Well. Pfftt. Never mind them. You just carry on being you, and move past and say good luck to the hindmost trolls, with their clever little humble-brag pokes.

Man in thong on bicycle

Image Credit: Pixabay

43 thoughts on “When Trolls Wear Princess Dresses

    mbarkersimpson said:
    June 16, 2015 at 12:48 pm

    I completely agree with you, Jo, mean is mean – no matter how you dress it up. Great post, and it made me feel better about the run-ins I’ve had personally. Luckily, the wonderful, supportive community I belong to gives me strength. Thanks for being part of it, and for sharing😀

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      June 16, 2015 at 1:30 pm

      Thanks to you too Melanie! We do have a really wonderful community, don’t we? It makes the occasional run-ins a lot less painful knowing that we have lovely and genuinely nice people around us. Never let the nasties get you down for too long. 🙂 X

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    Serins said:
    June 16, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    I’m probably too blond to recognize something like this. And ocasionally there are benifits to being blond.😉

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      June 16, 2015 at 1:31 pm

      LOLOLOL! Blondes have a lot more fun, and never mind the political correctness. 😀😀😀 I’m laughing so hard my eyes are burning.❤

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    Charles Yallowitz said:
    June 16, 2015 at 1:26 pm

    Not sure what you mean by the ‘nice troll’. I’ve probably seen it in action, but for some reason I can’t place the tactic. I do agree that it’s best to keep walking since interaction tends to make things worse. Once you’re in, it’s not easy to get out and that never happens without a few ‘wounds’.

    Also, something about eating a cinnamon bun and reaching that last picture is awkward.

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      June 16, 2015 at 1:34 pm

      They try really hard to come across as nice, and a lot of people fall for that and tend to enable them when they mock others by agreeing with them. Even if they are sometimes correct with some little point or another, the feel the need to embarrass and belittle. Meanies. I agree totally about not getting openly confrontational with them – they always love a bit of biting and hair pulling. 😀

      Ha ha haaaaa! Do you reckon it’s the bun connection?😀

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        Charles Yallowitz said:
        June 16, 2015 at 1:54 pm

        Definitely the bun connection. 🙂 So the meanies are kind of like Brutus from Julius Caesar? Be your friend and then do a few stabs to the back while still thinking they’re your friend?

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          jorobinson176 responded:
          June 16, 2015 at 2:17 pm

          Wouldn’t it be cool to have the guts to ride a bike on the beach in that outfit though? Definitely a bit of the Brutus, but also those who use whatever amount of knowledge they have (no matter how little it is) to go the “intellectual” route, by taking something someone says and twisting it and bending it, and then trying to publicly make a mockery of it, while at the same time being wonderfully “kind and helpful” to their followers. Really sick-making in my opinion, and uncalled for. The strangest thing for me about these sorts of post is the amount of support they get from their followers. Surely people can see nasty for what it is.

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            Charles Yallowitz said:
            June 16, 2015 at 2:32 pm

            I’m suddenly thinking of Xerxes from ‘300’ saying he’s a benevolent god.

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    FlorenceT said:
    June 16, 2015 at 1:46 pm

    Hear, hear, Jo… I am so quiet and nondescript, and yet I get them…fancy that! Great post.

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      June 16, 2015 at 1:57 pm

      I don’t think you’re nondescript at all Florence – your words always blow me away – that’s a superpower in my book. I think they try and go for people who they think won’t hurt them back because bullies are always cowards in the end. I reckon this is one of the worst kinds of bullying and if there’s one thing that will turn me into a fire breathing dragon it would be to bully one of my beloveds. X

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    Jack Eason said:
    June 16, 2015 at 2:10 pm

    Remind me never to upset you Jo😉 xxx

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      June 16, 2015 at 2:19 pm

      You never could Jack. 🙂❤ I'd bite the bum of anyone who upset you though. 🙂

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        Jack Eason said:
        June 16, 2015 at 2:20 pm

        Love you too sweetie – Mwah❤ xxx

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    Jack Eason said:
    June 16, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    Reblogged this on Have We Had Help? and commented:
    Look out our Jo is here🙂

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    T Ibara Photo said:
    June 16, 2015 at 2:12 pm

    Great post!🙂

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      June 16, 2015 at 2:20 pm

      Thank you Takami my friend!❤ Sometimes the steam must come out. XXXX

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    Karin said:
    June 16, 2015 at 2:13 pm

    Brilliant post Jo. I’ve had some experience with this type of troll. It’s impossible to fight back against a popular blogger who has decided to make their jealousy / wounded ego / fear toward you public. The little person always come off looking badly. It’s so easy for these cowards to work behind the scenes too.
    Seems many revert to the schoolyard cliques online and most of us know that the King and Queen of the prom were Satan with a hall pass!

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    inavukic said:
    June 16, 2015 at 2:16 pm

    Great article, Jo. Must confess – I get merciless with “them” (trolls, bullies, cynics…) – can spot them no matter how they “dress up” – ah, the trials and tribulations of blogging, but hey – the sunshine and well meaning people take the victory with me

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    First Night Design said:
    June 16, 2015 at 2:47 pm

    Hear, hear!

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    John W. Howell said:
    June 16, 2015 at 2:49 pm

    Loved this Jo.

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    olganm said:
    June 16, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    Indeed. And you have a talent not only to write posts but to choose your pictures.🙂

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    Mira Prabhu said:
    June 16, 2015 at 5:39 pm

    Reblogged this on mira prabhu and commented:
    Great advice from Jo Robinson: “Ignore the mean-spirited sods and treasure the wonderful friends that you do have. If what you share with the world is genuine, and coming from a good place inside your heart or mind, you’re on the right track.”

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    Patrick Jones said:
    June 16, 2015 at 7:12 pm

    Wow…that is so true…there are so many trolls that hang out on the net and come out from under the rocks. The ones I really hate are the Twitter ones…buy my Twitter followers….ahhhhhhhh! Hope that we are your best of friends forever! Love ya!

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    Nancy said:
    June 16, 2015 at 7:23 pm

    Reblogged this on "OUR WORLD".

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    Suzanne Joshi said:
    June 17, 2015 at 11:20 am

    Great piece, Jo. I totally agree. I’m senior enough to just let some things go over my head these days. I have an Irish temper too, but, like you, try to keep it in check.The picture of the guy on the bicycle is hilarious. I laughed out loud.😀

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    D. Wallace Peach said:
    June 17, 2015 at 7:45 pm

    Excellent post with a good reminder not to give in to negativity. I’ve been fortunate so far, or I’m oblivious, which certainly may be the case. The folks that visit me seem wonderful. Oh, and yes, the thong…made my eyes bulge – a good chuckle there.

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    Sue Dreamwalker said:
    June 18, 2015 at 12:38 am

    Well said Jo.. I often pity their petty little lives.. that they have nothing better to do..

    Love and well wishes your way.. Sue xox

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    Smorgasbord - Variety is the Spice of Life. said:
    June 18, 2015 at 10:05 am

    Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    Trolling has become more devious and as Jo Robinson illustrates subtle little digs aimed at proving their superiority is still mean. The actual illustrations are worthy of note, especially the last one that shouts.. on your bike you bum!

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    PorterGirl said:
    June 18, 2015 at 11:15 am

    This is great advice, thank you!

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    vanbytheriver said:
    June 18, 2015 at 12:12 pm

    Great ideas in this post. I guess I’m not popular enough to be plagued by trolls…at least so far. ☺ By the way…that guy on the bike…that has to be a painful ride !!

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    JC said:
    June 18, 2015 at 12:23 pm

    Thanks for the post!

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    inesephoto said:
    June 18, 2015 at 4:33 pm

    Nasty critters they are😦

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    purpleslobinrecovery said:
    June 18, 2015 at 9:27 pm

    Oh, my!! The”when trolls wear princess dresses” line was too delish!! I haven’t had any of those yet, thank God. But that last picture, of the man on the bike seared my eyes!! Found you on Smorgasbord. Love your wit.

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    Let's CUT the Crap! said:
    June 18, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    Fabulous post, Jo. No point wasting time and energy on nasties who have their own agenda.

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    D.G.Kaye said:
    June 22, 2015 at 5:54 am

    Nicely put here Jo. Trolls are troll no matter how we slice it. Although it can be difficult to swallow their venom we have to grow thick skins and seal our lips. Sad really.

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    blondieaka said:
    July 8, 2015 at 9:55 am

    Well written Jo.Mean is mean as we all know but I personally have met so many lovely people who have helped me considerably and for no gain just to pass on their craft and for that I am grateful. Thankfully the meanies are in the minority and on a bad hard to ignore but… Hey Ho…. life’s too short. Have a nice day🙂

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    Marje @ Kyrosmagica said:
    July 20, 2015 at 9:08 am

    Yes mean is mean and best to be instantly disassociated with. Great post for those who may be targets of trolls.

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      July 28, 2015 at 3:44 pm

      Thank you Marje. So many people get so hurt, they stop blogging altogether, so they need a bit of cheering on sometimes too. 🙂

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