Better Late Than Never

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So far recently, every time I’ve thought that I would be back to blogging often, some weird and terrible thing has happened. Lots of bad things. Now I’m sure that I will be back, even though that’s not to say that everything is all unicorns dancing on moonbeams for me, I’m OK, happy, and I’ve finally realised that change, no matter how toothy and scary it appears at the time, is best embraced and worked with rather than fought with. Change can be beautiful when viewed over your shoulder I think—the trick is to keep on moving no matter what and believe that it will be. Life is often about hard choices, and sometimes life can be so hard that the choice becomes whether to stay upright and carry on walking at all through that terror-filled valley or to find a suitably large rock to hide behind for the duration.

Problem with the rock is that the longer you stay with it the longer you stay in the valley. I reckon too that if you do spend a whole long time quivering in fear behind it, wondering how to get rid of the bulls-eye on your forehead and the sign on your back that says “Kick Me Really Hard All The Time”, you get to thinking that you’ve missed your chance altogether. That’s never true—it’s never too late. The hardest two parts about getting through to the sunshine are probably getting rid of that feeling of waiting for the next disaster, believing that of course more horribleness is surely on the way, and secondly believing that you deserve all horribleness issued to you anyway because you really are not only not fabulous, but you could indeed be the very epitome of anti-fabulousness.

Not easy peasy, but once you transform that rotten duo of beliefs, you might just be able find the rest of the trip not as petrifying as you imagined, and quite a lot of fun. Of course, some people’s valleys aren’t quite so deep and dark, but even though all people will have some level of tribulation in their lives, not all are properly equipped to deal with it depending on what they’ve learned one way or another, so I’m feeling quite excited about my upcoming non-fiction projects. Yes—finally! Late, yes, but at least not never. More on that and also epically late fiction launches to follow.

The past couple of years have been pretty surreal, and I’m really grateful to have actually not totally crumbled and expired. The worst happened this year when I lost one of my feathered horde, who those of you who have followed this blog for several years will know are my constant, very, very much beloved companions and fabulous feathered joy blessings. Little Button zoomed off to await the rest of us in Heaven. The worst thing is the way Jelly still mourns him. Those two little guys used to have the most appalling fights—feathers literally flew—but still, weeks and weeks after the fact, Jelly refuses to go to the places where they sat together, and would not bath in their bath either. I eventually threw it away, and now he will only bath in my cupped palms under running water. He looks at the ceiling fan that was Button’s domain, with a proper look of hope that his buddy will be there, and cried too, for a long time while holding on to one of my fingers very tightly with his tiny claw. I’ve never seen an animal grieve the way Jelly has, but it has taught me that without any shadow of a doubt, those of God’s creatures who we bring into our lives and love so much, will most certainly not “just die”. We will most certainly see them on the other side. I was going to post a RIP Button tribute, but as with when Angus died I couldn’t do it, those things just make everyone cry. I will instead be posting more photies of the whole horde in future regardless of “where” they are. Just the happy guys that they are should be shared. We place too much emphasis on mourning when we lose a love to what we see as the grim reaper, when I believe now that we should rather focus on the joy of their lives, and the knowledge that they really are in another place now—a good place—looking forward to seeing us again. Death is just a doorway, not an ending. It’s our job to move on positively, enjoy the time we have left here, and be as productive, helpful, and loving as we can while we do so.

BUTTON
BUTTON

Weirdly, even though the thought of my little yellow angel is still like a hot knife through my heart, after a couple of weeks of thinking that I would expire too from the pain of his absence, his death kicked me right out of my own weird head thing. Sometimes when the worst thing that you can think of happens, you have to either move forward with joy—or give up and camp out in the valley, forever in pain and misery. So moving on to new things for my horde and I. New things for Jelly will have to be found to take his mind off the past. New joys, and sometimes sadness too, but never hiding too long again behind anything.

I keep in mind now that when you expect only the horrible, the horrible is exactly what you will get. I’ve made a couple of fabulous discoveries—one especially, astoundingly simple, and almost instantly healing—all of which I’m very hard at work compiling into books for this year. Lots of fabulous publishing and design projects have been coming my way from my fabulous Indie authors. Thank you to all of you for your support, for allowing me to work with you on all of your wonderful books, and for your patience the couple of times I dived behind a rock or had a couple thrown at me.

When the trials of life do delay you one way or another, remember that it’s never too late to get moving again. Even if you drop some of your luggage on your way through your wilderness, that’s not always a bad thing, when you walk through the darkness concentrating on the light ahead, often there is a wonderful blue sky waiting for when you take that first step towards the exit of that valley.

Sky

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29 thoughts on “Better Late Than Never

    delphini510 said:
    May 2, 2017 at 10:16 am

    Thank you Jo for this deep and spiritual blog. So beautifully written.
    My eyes tears as you give voice to my own journey.
    Every word is gentle but strong. Yes, the journey is worth it for seeing the exit alone
    and for the new life and strength you have gained.
    Bless
    Mirja

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      May 2, 2017 at 3:45 pm

      Thank you and bless you too Mirja. Funny how the bad times seem to be never-ending till they end, and then it’s a wonderful surprise. Have a beautiful journey to every destination.

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    jenanita01 said:
    May 2, 2017 at 10:17 am

    Uplifting and inspiring… thank you for this post, Jo, just what I needed to hear today…

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    patriciaruthsusan said:
    May 2, 2017 at 11:31 am

    Beautiful post full of meaning, Jo. My husband, 86, passed on in February. Both our children made the long trip to spend time with me. I’ve had a lot of help which I deeply appreciated. I’m so glad you’re healing from your loss and are moving on. I know I’d much rather heal and move on than the alternative. All the best to you in your future. 🙂 — Suzanne

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      May 2, 2017 at 3:48 pm

      Such a very new wound! I hope you heal quickly. Funny thing with husbands-moving on never really takes them away. I wish you LOTS of peace and joy now and onwards! X

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    Barbara Franken said:
    May 2, 2017 at 12:10 pm

    Beautiful post, Thankyou for sharing such vulnerability… that is actually part of healing yourself and the world we live in… here’s to focusing on joy, remembering our trials and loved ones along the way… much love jo, barbara x

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    Charles Yallowitz said:
    May 2, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    Powerful and well said post, especially about expecting horrible stuff. Hope things turn around. Sorry about Button.

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      May 2, 2017 at 3:52 pm

      Thanks Charles. I reckon they will-I’m pretty much around the corner now. Hope you’re not expecting anything horrible! Looking forward to catching up with all you’ve been up to. How many new books have I missed?

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        Charles Yallowitz said:
        May 2, 2017 at 4:33 pm

        I tend to expect the worst, but I’m a pessimist. Best not to listen to me in this arena. I’m hoping to release the next Windemere book a week from this Friday if I get the cover art in time. Been suffering from tons of delays this year.

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    The Story Reading Ape said:
    May 2, 2017 at 2:36 pm

    I’m sorry to hear about Button, but I’m really, REALLY, glad to know that you’re still going strong, Jo.
    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      May 2, 2017 at 3:56 pm

      Thank you Lovely Furry! We miss him loads, but I keep on having visions of him being allocated a flock of “uneducated” birds above and being allowed to teach them all the songs that Jelly and he made up. I’m a whole lot stronger and wiser too – who’d have thought it possible? 😀 <3<3<3 MWAH! Looking forward to a BIG chat with you and hoping you're well in every way. XXXXX

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        jorobinson176 responded:
        May 2, 2017 at 3:57 pm

        Been away so long I’ve forgotten how to make WordPress hearts! 😛

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    davidprosser said:
    May 2, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    Health and happiness to you Jo.Your run of bad luck is over.Have a wonderful rest of the week an a fantastic weekend.
    xxx Massive Hugs xxx

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      May 2, 2017 at 3:58 pm

      Hello lovely David! It’s been way too long since I’ve caught up with you. Will remedy that chop chop! LOADS of LOVE and KISSES and HUGS! XXXX

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    D. Wallace Peach said:
    May 2, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    So sorry for your loss of little Button, Jo. But I’m glad you’re looking at the new days ahead with hope and peace and a celebration of life with your feathered family and all those who care about you. ❤

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      jorobinson176 responded:
      May 2, 2017 at 4:03 pm

      Lovely to see you again Diana and thank you. The one thing that makes me smile is that he really did have a life filled with lots of love and joy, and I really am convinced we’ll meet again. Can’t wait to see what you’ve been up to. Lots and Lots of love and hugs to you! XXX

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    John W. Howell said:
    May 2, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    So nice to “see” you back. So sorry about Button. I still remember losing my Parakeet Whiskers and hope your fond memories of Button eventually replace the pain.

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    olganm said:
    May 2, 2017 at 11:59 pm

    Sorry about Button, Jo. It’s been hard times for you indeed but good to hear from you and to read such an inspiring post. Thinking of you and wishing you the best.

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    Terri Webster Schrandt said:
    May 3, 2017 at 12:44 am

    Hi Jo, my friend, so nice to read you today. I’m sorry for the loss of your beautiful Button, but you can be rest assured that God does indeed provide an eternal place for all His creatures. After all, they are beings with spirits and spirits and souls are everlasting. Your words are so eloquent and I am tearing up just replying. I have missed you and glad to see you are back among us. Also I am working on a new eBook and would love to work with you again over the summer. Just bought “Fly Birdie”…wonder what this will be about? 🙂

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    Cynthia Reyes said:
    May 3, 2017 at 5:04 pm

    What a deeply thoughtful and moving post, Jo. I can relate to so much in it, and can powerfully empathize with the rest. I find, when we write about these deep pains and great moments of insight, it releases something in us. And when we stop to count our blessings, and give thanks for them, we let joy in. Thank you for opening your heart and life to us. And I’m grateful to be one of your partners in storytelling this year. Myrtle and I thank you!

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    Carol Balawyder said:
    May 8, 2017 at 11:39 pm

    After reading your very touching and uplifting post, I’m really glad you’re back, Jo! ❤

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    angus48 said:
    May 12, 2017 at 7:05 am

    You have won over this Angus. Blessed be Jo!

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    Smorgasbord - Variety is the Spice of Life. said:
    May 12, 2017 at 1:03 pm

    Jo so pleased to have you back, I missed this post as I was in the middle of something last week but glad that I have found now. As always you have shown amazing fortitude and I am so sorry about losing Button I know how much those two little feathered muses supported you.. We will catch up properly by email.. love and hugs ♥

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    Vashti Quiroz-Vega said:
    May 12, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    Hello Jo! I’m sorry for your loss. I know what it’s like to lose a sweet little animal/friend. Beautiful and inspiring post.

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    T Ibara Photo said:
    May 14, 2017 at 5:13 am

    Thank you Jo, for sharing. Thinking of you ❤

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