I’ve got lots of catching up to do with everyone and comments, so pardon me zooming around and popping up around and about – I seldom do things linearly. I’ve had a most peculiar couple of weeks. Peculiar indeed. Amazingly enough I’m still in one piece, and have high hopes that I’ll carry on hanging around in said piece for a while longer. That whole arm in window thing knocked me totally off my game, and I ended up making myself sick as I always do when I get overloads of stress, which then ended up making me hugely cross – with myself at such blatant weakness. This led to all sorts of pretty rude internal dialogue, which finally led to a revelation. I don’t actually have to be superwoman, so I’m not going to try.
The last person you should be cross with is yourself. If you melt into a little puddle rather than always having to be able to withstand any old thing at all that life throws you, then you should be giving yourself hugs instead. Now I’ve been engaging in a selfly huggathon. Lots of hugs for me. I might even buy myself a really cool present too. I think that I’m better now than I was before though – which was a bit wound up like a guitar string – much more mellow, and wondering if that arm was some sort of universal intervention. So pardon my latest absence. It probably won’t be the last, but I have a fairly good idea that if there is another it won’t be for a long time. From now on my stern words will be directed outwards at anything that tries to trip me up again, rather than inwards at myself in reaction to events that I have no control over. I’ve finally figured out that I’m actually kind of cool, and not a total ninny after all.
So on that happy note, it’s back to work for me. I’ve just found out that J R R Tolkien was born in Bloemfontein, South Africa, and only stayed in England because his father passed away. I wonder if he’d have written Lord of the Rings if he’d stayed here. That’s why I love Google. These little nuggets just appear from nowhere to inspire you.
Well you know that there are massive virtual hugs winging their way from Spain to South Africa and since J.R.R. Tolkein did not write Lord of the Rings in South Africa we are lucky to have your writing to enjoy. XXHugs
Thanks for the hugs Sal! ❤ I just find it really cool knowing that I've actually been to the places his family must have been. Also finally watched the last in the Hobbit trilogy – brilliant! HUGS!
Here are some very special hugs from the isle of Crete which come wrapped in even more special Sarah hugs. 🙂 I’m glad to hear you’ve had an epiphany – it took me a long, long time to realise I didn’t have to be perfect and that it was okay to become that little puddle of tears. xx
Thank you for all the lovely hugs and special hugs Sarah! ❤ I've been treating myself way too strictly for a while. It's lovely now that I've decided not to. Amazing how long these epiphanies take to come though. 🙂 XXXX
Sending a ton of Southern hugs! Be kind to yourself – women have a problem with beating up on themselves. I have a T shirt that says: I’m a mother. I am guilty. Forget all that!
Thank you for the wonderful Southern hugs Noelle! ❤ You're so right – forget all that! We're soft as mallows with everyone else, and then abuse ourselves. 😛 ❤
Thank you for the lovely big hugs Olga! I really am appreciating every single one – I’m being hugged around the world today – how cool is that! It’s been sort of weird this whole thing – my self expectations were way too high, and it’s a bit amazing that I made it this far without the top of my head blowing off. 😀 Love and HUGS! ❤ XX
So sorry for all you’ve been through dear Jo, but so glad to see you back again. I’m adding to your self-hugging with my hugs, coming your way. And I love that little tidbit about Tolkien, had no idea! 🙂 Love, healing and hugs to you my lovely friend…missed you… ❤ ❤ ❤ xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hugs to you, Jo. That experience sounded awful and I’m not surprised that it shook you deeply. Keep up the personal hugging intervention; there’s no reason to stop! Glad to have you back. 😀
Hi Jo! Sometimes we can be really hard on ourselves. Been there. I see nothing wrong with giving yourself a hug and a pat on the back. I can relate. Here’s lots of big warm hugs and kisses from south Florida (USA)! ❤
I want some of that revelation, and directing stern words outwards…I need to try more of that! It’s great you’re giving yourself the love you deserve. Hugs 😀
Oh Jo… I’m sorry to hear you’ve gone through a rough patch — but delighted to know you emerged victorious! The selfly huggathon is a fabulous idea. I should follow your example. I’m my own worst critic, so I do understand what you meant. Mega hugs my friend, and be good to you. ❤ 🙂
Hi Jo. It seems you’re not alone with being overwhelmed. I’ve had an exasperating few weeks and they don’t look as though they’ll calm for a few more, so I hear and feel you. According to several friends of mine, they too are going through mysterious ‘Murphy Law’ crap. Perhaps it’s been the blue moon or planets shifting, but I hope it’s over! So give yourself a hug from me, and thanks for passing on the hugathon!!! ❤
July 28, 2015 at 11:36 am
Well you know that there are massive virtual hugs winging their way from Spain to South Africa and since J.R.R. Tolkein did not write Lord of the Rings in South Africa we are lucky to have your writing to enjoy. XXHugs
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July 28, 2015 at 12:09 pm
Thanks for the hugs Sal! ❤ I just find it really cool knowing that I've actually been to the places his family must have been. Also finally watched the last in the Hobbit trilogy – brilliant! HUGS!
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July 28, 2015 at 12:14 pm
I’m sending you a big hug along with these kisses Jo. 😉 ❤ xxx
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July 28, 2015 at 12:16 pm
Loving the hugs and kisses – thank you Jack! MWAH ❤ HUGS! 🙂 xxxx
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July 28, 2015 at 12:45 pm
Welcome back and nice philosophy. People need more hugs. Guess sometimes they have to make the supply to go with the demand.
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July 28, 2015 at 12:48 pm
Thanks Charles – it’s not nice going off on wobblies, so I’m going to supply and demand hugs all the time I reckon. 🙂 HUGS!
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July 28, 2015 at 1:23 pm
Here are some very special hugs from the isle of Crete which come wrapped in even more special Sarah hugs. 🙂 I’m glad to hear you’ve had an epiphany – it took me a long, long time to realise I didn’t have to be perfect and that it was okay to become that little puddle of tears. xx
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July 28, 2015 at 1:28 pm
Thank you for all the lovely hugs and special hugs Sarah! ❤ I've been treating myself way too strictly for a while. It's lovely now that I've decided not to. Amazing how long these epiphanies take to come though. 🙂 XXXX
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July 28, 2015 at 2:35 pm
Be gentle with yourself . . . You are a child of the universe! the Desiderata . Cheers and hugs!
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July 28, 2015 at 2:50 pm
I LOVE that – thank you! I think I’ll just go read the whole thing again. HUGS! ❤ XXXX
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July 28, 2015 at 3:04 pm
Furry HUGS – Whiskery KISSES – and a bunch of BANANAs from me Jo 😀 😀 😀 XXXXX
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July 28, 2015 at 3:36 pm
Thank you Furry! Whiskery hugs and kisses are the BEST kind! And bananas TOO!? ❤ XXXXXXX 😀
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July 28, 2015 at 4:41 pm
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July 28, 2015 at 3:08 pm
Sending a ton of Southern hugs! Be kind to yourself – women have a problem with beating up on themselves. I have a T shirt that says: I’m a mother. I am guilty. Forget all that!
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July 28, 2015 at 3:38 pm
Thank you for the wonderful Southern hugs Noelle! ❤ You're so right – forget all that! We're soft as mallows with everyone else, and then abuse ourselves. 😛 ❤
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July 28, 2015 at 3:26 pm
Big, big hugs, Jo. I think you are a superwoman, but even Superman had his weak point (and he could be pretty insightless at times too…). Love ♥
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July 28, 2015 at 3:42 pm
Thank you for the lovely big hugs Olga! I really am appreciating every single one – I’m being hugged around the world today – how cool is that! It’s been sort of weird this whole thing – my self expectations were way too high, and it’s a bit amazing that I made it this far without the top of my head blowing off. 😀 Love and HUGS! ❤ XX
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July 28, 2015 at 3:47 pm
(hugs) and who knew that about Tolkien? Google knows everything except what powder milk is best for my child. 😉
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July 28, 2015 at 4:56 pm
We live and learn, learn and love, live and love. Keep on huggin, Jo. 🙂
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July 28, 2015 at 6:07 pm
So sorry for all you’ve been through dear Jo, but so glad to see you back again. I’m adding to your self-hugging with my hugs, coming your way. And I love that little tidbit about Tolkien, had no idea! 🙂 Love, healing and hugs to you my lovely friend…missed you… ❤ ❤ ❤ xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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July 28, 2015 at 6:20 pm
Hugs to you, Jo. That experience sounded awful and I’m not surprised that it shook you deeply. Keep up the personal hugging intervention; there’s no reason to stop! Glad to have you back. 😀
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July 28, 2015 at 7:08 pm
Hi Jo! Sometimes we can be really hard on ourselves. Been there. I see nothing wrong with giving yourself a hug and a pat on the back. I can relate. Here’s lots of big warm hugs and kisses from south Florida (USA)! ❤
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July 28, 2015 at 7:41 pm
Hugs! And buy yourself a gift. A little something for yourself never hurts (checks credit card bill, realizes this may not be entirely true).
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July 29, 2015 at 10:53 am
Superwoman you may not be but Wonderwoman you certainly are! Love the personal huggathon concept and with you all the way my friend xxx
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July 29, 2015 at 4:20 pm
Do take care of yourself Jo.. and thank you for passing that little nugget to me. I was unaware of his origins.. 🙂 have a Happy Creative week.. Sue x
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July 29, 2015 at 6:41 pm
I want some of that revelation, and directing stern words outwards…I need to try more of that! It’s great you’re giving yourself the love you deserve. Hugs 😀
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August 1, 2015 at 12:42 pm
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August 1, 2015 at 1:16 pm
Oh Jo… I’m sorry to hear you’ve gone through a rough patch — but delighted to know you emerged victorious! The selfly huggathon is a fabulous idea. I should follow your example. I’m my own worst critic, so I do understand what you meant. Mega hugs my friend, and be good to you. ❤ 🙂
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August 4, 2015 at 12:02 am
Hi Jo. It seems you’re not alone with being overwhelmed. I’ve had an exasperating few weeks and they don’t look as though they’ll calm for a few more, so I hear and feel you. According to several friends of mine, they too are going through mysterious ‘Murphy Law’ crap. Perhaps it’s been the blue moon or planets shifting, but I hope it’s over! So give yourself a hug from me, and thanks for passing on the hugathon!!! ❤
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